Grief is a life issue that strikes at the very heart of being human, while we live in a body, pair bond and procreate we will love and we will lose. The effect of loss can be shocking and it needs a process of mourning or grieving to come to terms with. When loss is not accompanied with some sort of process that allows us to both feel and express our feelings of despair, vulnerability, disorientation and perhaps even relief, those emotions can go underground. But out of sight is not out of mind, they will come back to haunt us if we do not somehow find a way to accommodate and accept the loss that has taken place. This is where a funeral becomes so significant, it gives individuals a chance to reflect on their loved ones life, celebrate who they were and pay a special tribute to them.
There is no rule book for grief, no time frame, no judgement. Grief is as individual as a fingerprint. Do what is right for you.